What is the balance in your emotional bank account?
You have emotional bank accounts — or “Trust Accounts” as Stephen Covey calls them in The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People — with everyone in your life.
Sometimes the account balance may be high, and sometimes it may be low. That balance influences your relationship, the amount of cooperation you may be receiving, and how close you feel to one another. Teaching your children about their trust accounts makes for a terrific life skill as well as for a language to use in having family conversations about feelings and relationships.
Just like an actual bank account, your trust accounts have debits and credits. Debits include yelling, ignoring, minimizing, using sarcasm, rescuing, name calling, talking about someone behind their back and fighting.
Deposits can include making eye contact, listening, giving physical affection, speaking words of endearment and spending time with someone.
The higher the balance, the more trust and closeness you create. The higher the balance, the greater the buffer to your account when you happen to be human and yell, don’t listen intently or forget to do something that you agreed to do. With a high balance, in those human moments, the account will not be overdrawn.
The balance in your emotional bank accounts is a great barometer to measure the closeness and cooperation in all of your relationships. Make it a practice to check your account balance every week with the significant people in your life, and have fun adding deposits.
You will experience a wonderful return on your investment!
Maggie Macaulay, M.S. Ed., is the owner of Whole Hearted Parenting, offering coaching, courses and workshops. Call 954-483-8021 or visit www.WholeHeartedParenting.com. Send her am email at Maggie@WholeHeartedParenting.com.